Regular Life

Regular Life

In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it goes on. – Robert Frost

A Dad Who Left Early

We lost a great dad this week. His name was Steve Caffey. When I first saw Steve, probably at Christmas in 1992, I thought, “Wow, that guy needs to wash his hands.” Then I learned he was a mechanic, and realized he probably had washed them more times that day than I would wash mine… (read more)

To Local Friends Who Soon Will be Remote

We’ve lost weight, gained weight, and learned how to sit and wait. We’ve endured sunburns and broken bones, stomach flus and kidney stones. Largely thanks to Shannon’s activity during Benjamin’s elementary school years, we have met many others who have children of similar age. We have shared laughs, likes, dislikes, and dining tables. We’ve built… (read more)

Unexpected Medicine

Sometimes you manage to give your children just what they need emotionally. Other times, they return the favor without even trying. On the way home from a late softball game, Benjamin and I stopped to grab food for all of us. We parked to go in rather than burning gas in the long drive-through line…. (read more)

Letter to a Jazz Man

Dear Jack, This morning my iPod chose an instrumental track from one of your albums, and at first I admit I didn’t realize who it was. Jack Mitchell and His Big Band. What a talented group of geezers. I took my iPod out of shuffle mode so that I could hear the rest of your… (read more)

Changes in Gratitude

You do a favor for someone, or they do one for you. Do you expect at least a simple “thank you” and “you’re welcome” to be exchanged? I recently found a videotape I shot of a former boss’ children at an event, with him as the person in charge. He was always supportive and friendly… (read more)